I have learned so many things over the past 10 years: shrinking myself serves no one, but sharing my light does; family isn’t defined by outward appearance, only love and understanding; and, most importantly, it’s never too late to choose a new path — even when it feels scary.
As for music, I’m standing at the edge of another beginning. I’ve slowly started writing new songs and I’m letting myself dream of new musical adventures. I may not ever even front another rock band, but whatever I do, I’ll be using my voice. No one will ever take that away from me again.
Oskar Saville is a mother of three incredible children, a writer and performer. She lives in New York City and is currently working on a memoir. For more from her, check out her Substack.
This article originally appeared on HuffPost in April 2026.