Should You Ever Be Naked Around Your Kids? Here’s What Experts Actually Think

As a parent, being nude in front of your kids occasionally is unavoidable. Maybe you stepped out of the shower as they barged through the bathroom door, or you ran to grab a towel as you were getting dressed.

While these brief encounters are unlikely to scar your child permanently, you may have questions about whether it’s okay for them to see you naked. Should you cover up? Is there a certain age when nudity is not appropriate?

“It really depends on a few factors, including your kid’s age, maturity level and unique development, as well as your preferences, culture, family values, parenting style and relationship with your kids,” said Reena Patel, a psychologist, parenting expert and licensed educational board-certified behavior analyst.

Before preschool, children may not notice or understand the concept of nudity. As they become more aware of their own body, they may begin asking questions about bodies in general or may want more privacy. So, it’s natural for family norms surrounding nudity to evolve, said Kanchi Wijesekera, a licensed clinical psychologist and clinical director at Milika Center for Therapy and Resilience.

Below, experts share advice on how to navigate nudity with your family in mundane, everyday (and very obviously safe, nonsexual) situations.

Whether you had a more modest or relaxed upbringing, chances are you saw your parents getting changed or undressed — even if you don’t remember it. Take me, for instance. I don’t recall ever seeing my dad naked. Still, there are photos of him holding me at six months when he was taking a shower after my tired mom handed me off to him for a quick rinse. (Sometimes the direct route is the easiest. Just ask any parent doing bath time with an infant.)

Regardless of how your caregivers handled nudity, the human body is a natural part of life. Sometimes children walk in while you’re sitting on the toilet to ask you a question or tell you about a fight they had with their sibling. They often aren’t really thinking about bodies or your state of undress.

“When nudity is handled casually and comfortably at home, it can actually help kids develop a healthy, shame-free relationship with their own bodies,” Wijesekera said.

Patel agreed, saying that you get to determine your parenting style — which could mean being open and casual about being unclothed or having rules about when to cover up. When you model self-acceptance, it allows children to develop a nonjudgmental attitude towards their own bodies.

However, accepting nudity isn’t the only way to teach your kids about positive body image.

“As much as I’m a fan of body positivity, I believe it can be accomplished naked or clothed,” said Adolph Brown, a clinical psychologist and parenting expert on ABC’s “The Parent Test.”

“Children will still learn an appreciation of all shapes and sizes based on the adults’ acceptance of themselves or expression of self-love.”

According to research, children form their earliest memories around the age of 3 or 4 and can recall these experiences for the next few years. By the time they reach third or fourth grade, they start to lose these memories. So, any concerns about your children seeing your naked body prior to the age of 3 would yield very few memories, if any at all, Brown explained.

His advice was to take cues from your children as they get older. Pay attention to how they react to you seeing them nude.

“If they are grossed out, scream ‘awkward’ in embarrassment or run, you have your answer,” he said. “On the other hand, if they continue making their PB&J like nothing is new, your child seems comfortable with nakedness.”

You can also treat these occasions as an opportunity to set boundaries around privacy, what is considered appropriate in and out of your household and ease any embarrassment concerning nudity.

“I personally advise around the age of 4 that you start to cover up and avoid being nude around your kids to help create these boundaries,” Patel said. “Before that age, it really is your own preference.”

It’s important to teach your children about privacy while also encouraging them not to feel ashamed of their bodies.

However, since home behavior often transitions to school behavior, Brown recommended not allowing your child to touch your body while unclothed. It’s never too early to teach them to respect consent. Not only can it help set a boundary for your own personal space, but it also teaches them to set the same boundaries for their own bodies and to learn to identify what feels safe.

Talking to your kids about who it’s okay to be naked in front of is another approach to setting boundaries. Make clear what is considered private and what constitutes appropriate touch — and that you and other safe adults are here to help protect them if they are ever made to feel uncomfortable.

“Children need to know what they should do if their boundaries are violated and if they are inappropriately touched,” Brown said.

Wijesekera agreed, emphasizing the value of helping children understand that they have a right to privacy and autonomy.

As far as dealing with shame, Brown notes that you should avoid making negative or belittling comments about anyone’s body (including your own) in your child’s presence; teach them to value differences without being judgmental.

Ultimately, it’s about finding a balance that feels authentic to your family and personal preferences. There is no right or wrong.

“If you ever feel uncertain, trust your instincts and stay tuned in to your child’s reactions,” Wijesekera said. “Kids are pretty good at signaling when they’re ready for more privacy, and following their lead is a great way to model respect for personal space.”